Affirm Someone Today
In fact, I think there should be more of it. I know in my own household there isn’t enough. I am really good at tearing my kids down and listing off the things they haven’t done or shouldn’t have done. The list of complaints about my husband that I carry around in the back of my head, ready at a moment’s notice (shut-it, you have one too), is really not helpful to anyone except The Accuser. And it seems like every time I have a praise, I have a caveat to go with it so that everyone knows things could always be better. “We had a great time last night! I mean, except our waiter was useless. But other than that, dinner was a treat!”
In an effort to promote ‘goodness’ in my life and for others, I’m going to spend more time on Home Building talking about ways we can affirm each other. Ways we can build each other up. I’d like to think that I have written a lot about this, but now I’m going to make a conscious effort.
I’d like to declare my support for, uphold and defend my friends, my family, and – guess who else? – myself. Crazy ideas, I know. Not at all in line with the guilt and frustration that we like to carry around with us. Too bad. Get out of the way, lies and invalidation. In fact, I’m not only going to speak positive truths about those people, but if I have an opportunity I’d like to support people I don’t know too. You know, like with a polite smile, or patience at the store. I’d like to be forgiving and encouraging if the opportunity presents itself. Maybe I’ll even create some opportunities for it.