029: Grownup Friendship Goals
Most of us have had a series of friendships that can bring up a whole host of emotions when we think about them. It occurred to me recently that some of us (me included!) might not be approaching our friendships intentionally as grownups. I think I took it for granted that friendships when I’m in my 30’s would be easy and fulfilling.
What is up with me and my unrealistic expectations of the world?!
So here are a few of my observations:
- Friendships are potentially complicated at any age: 9,13, and 37.
- At the same time, every friendship is different.
- Don’t try to fix people.
- People are complicated. (I say this way too many times during the show.)
- I over-analyze things. My friends know this which is helpful.
- Being intentional about our friendships will be best in the longrun. Do it!
- Find some wise women if you’re struggling with this.
I cited scripture during the show, but I’m only going to mention my favorites here.
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another. Proverbs 27:17
Therefore encourage one another and build one another up, just as you are doing. 1 Thessalonians 5:11
And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near. Hebrews 10:24-25
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins. 1 Peter 4:8
Sara Groves song I love. In the show I think it’s called “A Multitude of Sins” but actually it’s “When It’s Over” Go check it out here.
Side tangents include the concept of “awake to your feelings.”
Some books about friendship that could be useful:
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Production Notes · music – Spoke in the Wheel by Electric Tangerine Audio at http://audiojungle.net/user/ElectricTangerine · Vocal Introduction by Kena Clark · Intro/Outro Production by Bradley Hofbauer